Ongoing Domestic Violence
~about domestic violence~
What is violence or abuse? This explanation of psychological and physical abuse comes from Jill Curtis, a senior psychotherapist and author working in the UK. Over the past three years Jill has developed familyonwards.com, which has over a hundred articles on it and a continually expanding section of reviews of books on family issues. She has also contributed to a variety of other web sites connected with parenting, families, self-help, divorce, gay issues and women's interests.
A Domestic Violence Factsheet
Created by the American College of Emergency Physicians.
Violence Against Women
A factsheet from the World Health Organization (WHO) covering the scope of the problem, related health consequences, and guidance for health workers.
The Biggest Victims Are the Smallest~ a UNICEF
Also Available in Adobe Acrobat readable [PDF] format.
Warning Signs of An Abusive Relationship
A good checklist of behaviors and attitudes to be aware of, especially when starting a relationship. From the Counseling Center @ the University of Buffalo.
When Men Murder Women
Females Murdered by Males in Single Victim/Single Offender Incidents: Domestic violence, or intimate partner violence, against women is a disturbingly common occurrence in the United States. Estimates from the National Crime Victimization Survey (NCVS) indicate that from 1993 to 1998, women were victims of violent crimes by their intimate partners an average of more than 935,000 times a year. During this period, intimate partner violence comprised 22 percent of all violent crimes against women. While firearms are used in a relatively small percentage of domestic violence incidents, when a firearm is present, domestic violence can, and all too often does, turn into domestic homicide.
Violence Policy Center Study of Murder/Suicide Trends -- Results indicate that most murder/suicides perpetrated by males upon their intimate partners and children by the use of guns. In [PDF] only.
Firearms and Domestic Violence
In 2000, in homicides where the weapon was used, 50 percent of female homicide victims were killed with a firearm. Of those female firearm homicides, 75 percent were killed with a handgun. More than five times as many women were murdered by an intimate acquaintance than by a stranger in the year 2000. Learn more about this aspect of Domestic violence.
Child Protective Services & Domestic Violence
[PDF] of an article by Janet E. Findlater and Susan Kelly in the journal The Future of Children on the relationship between domestic violence and child abuse and neglect cases, and the role of Child Protective Services.
No Safe Haven: A Special Report
Special issue of Mother Jones magazine devoted to domestic violence.
Nat'l Clearinghouse on Marital & Date Rape
Started in 1978, when marital rape was a crime in only 4 states.,this clearinghouse, now a website, follows national cases; has legal briefs, legislative testimony, bills, statutes, law reviews, newspaper clippings, articles, statistics, published and unpublished studies, and letters.
A Comparison of Pimps and Batterers
A report by Evelina Giobbe of the Commercial Sexual Exploitation Resource Institute, Minneapolis, Minnesota. The mission of CSERI is to abate commercial sexual exploitation through research, education and community organizing, and to advocate for the human rights of prostituted women, youth, and transgendered persons, and to increase opportunities for individuals to leave the sex industry.
No Safe Place
This 1998 PBS broadcast, No Safe Place, offers resources and insights into the origins and possible solutions to violence against women.
Blaming the Victim
Article by Greg Dear in [PDF] format.
Biderman's Chart of Coercion
Analysis of the subversive manipulation involved in an abusive relationship.
Department of Health & Human Services
List of information on domestic violence concerns.
PTSD: A Conversation with Judith Herman
Taken from an interview Judith Herman, an expert in the field of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, on the personal and political dimensions of trauma and recovery. Here, Herman explains how PTSD develops in women survivors of domestic violence.
Defending Our Lives
Defending Our Lives exposes the magnitude and severity of domestic violence in this country. It features four women imprisoned for killing their batterers and their terrifying personal testimonies. This film won the Academy Award for Best Documentary Short in 1994.
Reading List on Domestic Violence
A good basic reading list of books and articles on domestic violence: history, research, self-help. Compiled by a number of sources. Very thorough in scope.
Domestic Violence Reading List
Compiled by the National Child Traumatic Stress Network
Women Against Domestic Violence
Women Against Domestic Violence (WADV) is an online organization that seeks to provide support and information to any adult or child who is or has been the victim of domestic abuse. The organization is run by a group of women from all over the world who have come together to put an end to violence in our homes. Has a page for survivor poetry, a list of rights, an open forum & chatroom, support members and a list of questions to help women make determinations about their domestic situation.
National Network to End Domestic Violence
The National Network to End Domestic Violence is your eye and ear to federal public policy. Whether in Congress, the Executive branch or the Courts, NNEDV is your best source on domestic violence legislation and policy.
Break the Cycle
Break the Cycle is a nonprofit organization whose mission is to engage, educate and empower youth to build lives and communities free from dating and domestic violence.
Nat'l Coalition Against Domestic Violence
The Mission of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence is to organize for collective power by advancing transformative work, thinking and leadership of communities and individuals working to end domestic violence.
Dep't of Justice, Violence Against Women Office
The mission of the Office on Violence Against Women (OVW) is to provide federal leadership to reduce violence against women, and to administer justice for and strengthen services to all victims of domestic violence, dating violence, sexual assault, and stalking. This is accomplished by developing and supporting the capacity of state, local, tribal, and non-profit entities involved in responding to violence against women.
Partnerships Against Violence
Partnerships Against Violence Network is a "virtual library" of information about violence and youth-at-risk, representing data from seven different Federal agencies.
Violence prevention professionals can communicate and share resources through the Pavnet mailgroup.
The Nat'l Center for Victims of Crime
The mission of the National Center for Victims of Crime is to forge a national commitment to help victims of crime rebuild their lives. We are dedicated to serving individuals, families, and communities harmed by crime. They cover issues such as:
victim assistance, civil litigation, stalking, dating violence, information for Victims and more.
Stop The Hurt.com
A not-for-profit Domestic Violence prevention resource site for victim, survivors, or anyone who cares about the issues surrounding domestic violence.
Domestic Violence Nat'l Directory: Professional Services
An initiative of the US Justice Fund and the Open Society Institute, this site focuses on securing procedural and substantive justice for all individuals by developing criminal and civil justice systems that are accessible and impartial, protect fundamental human rights, prohibit arbitrary and discriminatory government action, and remove barriers that prevent individuals from participating fully in the economic, social and political life of the community. Offers a comprehensive listing of services for domestic violence survivors and the advocates who assist them.
Survivors in Service is a grassroots organization of self-identifying survivors of domestic violence, sexual assault, and stalking, the network/caucus formerly known as Survivors In Service (SIS) began with initial support from the Washington State Coalition Against Domestic Violence (WSCADV) and statewide domestic violence programs. The organization works to provide leadership in the field of eliminating violence against women.
Women's Rights Network
A cooperative organization with the Centers for Disease Control, this endeavor is a consortium of the Medical University of South Carolina (MUSC), The University of Missouri at St. Louis (UMSL), and Wellesley Centers for Women (WCW) at Wellesley College.
White Ribbon Campaign
The WRC is the largest effort in the world of men working to end men's violence against women. It relies on volunteer support and financial contributions from individuals and organizations. Initiated as a response to the murder of women engineering students in Montreal.
The Silent Witness National Initiative
Silent Witness National Initiative is a non-profit organization promoting peace, healing and responsibility in adult relationships in order to eliminate domestic murders by the year 2010.
Corporate Alliance to End Partner Violence
A national nonprofit organization working to prevent domestic violence, CAEPV is the only program in the country founded by business leaders and focused on the workplace. CAEPV is dedicated to reducing the costs and consequences of partner violence at work - and eliminating it altogether. From policies and programs to legal issues and legislation. A credible source for information, materials and advice
The Clothesline Project
Provides an opportunity for women to bear witness to their personal experience of violence, and celebrate their transformation from victim to survivor in a powerful statement of solidarity.
Communities Against Violence Network
A searchable, authoritative source of information about violence against women, children, persons with disabilities, gays and lesbians, and others. Membership in CAVNET can save you time and connect you to the best individuals and organizations addressing violence against women in the world, as well as provide you access to one of the most comprehensive online databases in the world, built and used by experts. We have participants who are the preeminent experts in the field - researchers, practitioners, clergy, judges, lawyers, health care professionals, prosecutors, law enforcement, advocates, and many others. Our membership is diverse, with experts in domestic violence, sexual assault, rape, incest, stalking, crime victims with disabilities, child welfare, international human rights, and many other areas affecting women and children.
Men & Women Against Domestic Violence
An internet-based coalition of men and women working to address the issue of domestic violence, MAWADV feels that domestic violence is not just a women's issue, but is very much a men's issue, too. They endeavor to educate and advocate against physical, mental, emotional and sexual violence of all kinds. Sponsored by The Paladin Group Grant Mentors.
Center for the Prevention of Sexual & Domestic Violence
An inter-religious educational resource addressing issues of sexual and domestic violence, the Center is a non-profit organization headquartered in Seattle, Washington, U.S.A. Formerly the Center for Prevention of Sexual and Domestic Violence, offers a wide range of services and resources, including training, consultation and providing communities and advocates with the tools and knowledge they need to address the religious and cultural issues related to abuse. The Center is an international, multi-faith organization working with many communities, including Asian and Pacific Islander, Buddhist, Jewish, Latino/a, Muslim, Black, Anglo, Indigenous, Protestant and Roman Catholic.
Power & Control
Art and Atrocity; Victim as Artist
Battered But Not Beat
Becoming a Survivor
The Cop and the Survivor
Domestic Violence, Murder & My Kids
Healing My Broken Spirit
Kathy's Koffee Cafe'
Knights of Kindness Haven of Hope
Leaving domestic abuse, safely
McElroy, Wendy: Domestic Violence Blog Page
Moonaura's Survivor Healing & Support
My Personal Story of Abuse
Pam's Enchanted Garden
Salon.com Life Knocked senseless
Salon.com Life Knocked senseless - The Response
She Walked Alone
Stop The Violence
Stop The Violence
Surviving Domestic Abuse
Time to Break Free
Victims by Chance....Survivors by Choice!
Voices and Faces - Survivor of Spousal Rape
Ann's Story - Survivor of Domestic Violence
Art and Atrocity - Victim as Artist
Mary's Second Submission
Messages from "Sue"
I Love You Most of All
My Story of Domestic Violence
Sanctuary for the Abused
Home Sweet Home
I'm Still Standing eBook
The Cop & The Survivor
Victory Over Violence
National Domestic Violence Hotline
ph: 800-799-SAFE (800-799-7233) / TTY: 800-787-3224
Domestic Violence Information Center
Domestic violence facts, news, Internet resources & the Violence Against Women Act. Presented by the Feminist Majority Foundation.
Human Services Policy: Special Populations/Family Violence
Department of Health and Human Services online resources.
How an Abuser Can Discover Your Internet Activities
A page from the American Bar Association's Commission on Domestic Violence, with cautionary advice on how to use the Internet more safely to obtain information and resources on domestic violence. Page also has links to other domestic violence organizations.
Cyberstalking: A New Challenge for Law Enforcement
From the Department of Justice site. Also check out the Dept of Jutice's Office of Violence Against Women site.
Abuse Counseling & Treatment: Internet Warning
ACTabuse gives detailed information on abusers ability to access the survivor via the Internet.
Angels In Blue: Stalking Page
Information on stalking laws and on stalking behavior, including information on Internet stalking. Angels In Blue has combined with the Knights Of Kindness and SafetyEd to provide information and resources concerning the crime of Stalking. Their expertise is in the area of Cyber Stalking.
Stalking Resource Center
The Stalking Resource Center is a program of the National Center for Victims of Crime. The Stalking Resource Center consists of five components: a Peer-to-Peer Exchange Program, Training, an Information Clearinghouse, a Practitioners' Network, and a Website. Also has Recursos en EspaÃ±ol. Part of the Nat'l Center for Victims of Crime
New Social Security Numbers For DV Victims
Sometimes the best way to evade an abuser you have left and reduce the risk of further violence may be to relocate and establish a new identity. Following these changes, it also may be helpful to get a new Social Security number. This webpage describes procedures and requirements for requesting a new social security number.
Financial Resources for Women & Children, Inc
Agency founded to provide low cost loans to women in abusive relationships Also provides practical advice about finances and planning for emergencies. FRWC, Inc. does not share personal information that you might enter with anyone and will not email you or add you to our snail mail list unless you specifically request that. FRWC's purpose is to help you get through a money crisis.
The Family Violence Prevention Fund
The Family Violence Prevention Fund describes itself as "a national non-profit organization that focuses on domestic violence education, prevention and public policy reform."
Economic Success Clearinghouse
From the Economic Success Clearinghouse(formerly Welfare Information Network)
Articles on the economic aspects of domestic violence, welfare and homelessness.
The ESC connects you to resources about effective policies, programs and financing strategies that help low-income and working poor families.
Info about restraining Orders, Protection Orders, Domestic Violence Injunctions.
Abuse of Power
Information for victims of domestic violence by police officers and firefighters.
Call to Protect
A domestic violence prevention project to provide those in danger with instant access to help in the form of a wireless phone.
Family Violence Law Enforcement Documentation
Information about documenting abuse using instant photography in health care settings and law enforcement settings.
Right to Know: Automating Notification with VINE
Review of the Vine system for victim notification by the Vera Organization. Report is available in Adobe Acrobat [PDF] format.
Domestic Violence in Queer Relationships
Information from the Gay & Lesbian Anti-violence Project of LAMBDA.
Equal Rights Advocates: Advice & Counseling Hotline
Free service for legal advice on a variety of work and gender matters.
Equal Rights Advocates: Legal Advocacy Organizations
List of NCWO members and others who work for women's legal rights.
American Bar Association: Finding Legal Help
Includes resources by state to finding legal help, including free services.
ABA: Pro Bono Projects Nationwide
Provides phone numbers for referral agencies and pro bono services across the country.
WomensLaw.org provides easy-to-understand legal information to women living with or escaping domestic violence.
Nationwide of Domestic Violence Coalitions
Compiled by the Nat'l Coalition Against Domestic Violence.
Tribal Court Clearinghouse
A huge source of information from the Tribal Law and Policy Institute.
Mending the Sacred Hoop: Technical Assistance
MSH-TA is a Native American program that provides training and technical assistance to our American Indian and Alaskan Native relations in the effort to eliminate violence in the lives of women and their children. They work with villages, reservations, rancherias and pueblos across the United States to improve the justice system, law enforcement, and service provider response to the issues of domestic violence, sexual assault and stalking in Native communities.
Nat'l Clearinghouse on Abuse in Later Life
The Wisconsin Coalition Against Domestic Violence created the National Clearinghouse on Abuse in Later Life (NCALL) in 1999 with funding from the Department of Justice's Office on Violence Against Women. NCALL has been the nationally recognized leader on program development, policy and technical assistance and training that addresses the nexus between domestic violence, sexual assault and elder abuse/neglect. The vision of NCALL is to end abuse and neglect of older adults and people with disabilities by family members, caregivers and others with ongoing relationships with victims.This site provides access to program development, policy and technical assistance and training related to the nexus between domestic violence, sexual assault and elder abuse/neglect.
Institute on DV in the African American Community
The Institute's Mission is to provide an interdisciplinary vehicle and forum by which scholars, practitioners, and observers of family violence in the African American community will have the continual opportunity to articulate their perspectives on family violence through research findings, the examination of service delivery and intervention mechanisms, and the identification of appropriate and effective responses to prevent/reduce family violence in the African American community.
The Black Church & Domestic Violence Institute
This institute believes in the Church's mission to improve the quality of life and recognize the linkages of violence to all social problems in the history of Black communities. They develop partnerships and collaborations to provide educational, spiritual and technical support as well as advocacy and leadership development: to enhance the capacity of the church to empower and protect the victims of domestic violence; to hold abusers accountable; to promote healing and wholeness in African-American communities.
Battered Immigrant Women
The program educates women about their rights and develops their leadership so that they can become involved in changing policies that affect them. As emerging leaders, they play a critical role in supporting other women, informing institutions on their needs, demanding accessible services and teaching their peers how to address domestic violence and sexual assault. Part of the Family Violence Prevention Fund.
A domestic violence shelter serving primarily Asian women and children, and is the only Asian shelter of its kind in the Mid-Western United States.
Crisis Line (In Illinois): 1-800-717-0757 (Out of State): 1-773-334-4663
Mail Order Brides & Abuse of Immigrant Women
A License To Abuse: The Impact of Conditional Status on Female Immigrants by Michelle J. Anderson [Text and footnotes of this article are reprinted from The Yale Law Journal.
Abused Deaf Women's Advocacy Services
Abused Deaf Women's Advocacy Services, located in Seattle, WA, is a support agency for Deaf, Deaf-Blind, and Hard-of-Hearing victims of Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault.
Network for Battered Lesbians & Bisexual Women
The Network for Battered Lesbians and Bisexual Women does activism to end domestic violence and oppression everywhere, and provides services to lesbian, bisexual and transgendered women victims/survivors of battering.
Family Violence & Partner Abuse
The L.A. Gay & Lesbian Center's STOP Partner Abuse/Domstic Violence Program provides information about, and resources for, lesbians at risk of domestic violence and those experiencing it.
Recovering from Domestic Violence
Everyone who experiences domestic violence has a different reaction to it. The way in which you respond to and recover from your experience depends upon a number of things, which might include: the types of abuse you experienced; any past experiences of abuse and violence; the strategies you used to survive the abuse; other stress in your life; and the support or lack of support you received from friends, family and services. Whatever your experience, recovering from domestic violence is a recovery from a significant trauma. This gay & lesbian resource, Another Closet, discusses some possible after effects.
Military Family Advocacy: Interpersonal Abuse
The goal of this site is to provide troops and family members with basic information about the Family Advocacy Program (FAP), child abuse, domestic abuse, and programs and resources designed to help families experiencing abuse.
Domestic Violence: Help for Federal Employees
Prepared by the U.S. Office of Personnel Management. Includes places to turn to and a sectionalized report.
Rural Domestic Violence & Sexual Assault
Information about domestic violence challenges in rural areas. Part of the Rural Womyn Zone.
Angels That Care
Resources for Domestic Violence, missing and abused children, forum, chat, and Amber Alert.
DV Victims Bring Complex Issues to Treatment
Domestic violence and mental health problems are often intertwined, according to Carole Warshaw, M.D., director of the Domestic Violence and Mental Health Policy Initiative in Chicago and a member of APA's Committee on Family Violence and Abuse. For example, studies show that from 42 percent to 46 percent of women in outpatient mental health settings have experienced physical abuse, and 29 percent to 38 percent have experienced sexual abuse as adults. An article from Psychiatric News.
Life After Domestic Violence: Tips for Survivors
Abuse in the home and dealing with what happens after you are out of the violent situation. Advice for trusting people and growing past the pain. From e-ssortment.com.
Books on Domestic Violence
From the Support Network for Battered Women.
Life After Abuse
When you finally get away from your abuser, what will life be like? Maybe you were abused for years and can't remember what it was like to NOT be abused. A Q&A from the Domestic Violence editor of bellaonline.com
Health Needs of Survivors
Survivors of domestic violence will tell you that life after abuse is never the same. An article by Ellen Taliaferro for Health After Trauma.
Artemis: For Survivors of Domestic Violence
This website began in July of 1998 as a place for support to women and men who were survivors of domestic violence. Since this time, there have been changes and updates to keep this place fresh and unique. Now it is being split into two different dimensions, one for Survivors and one for Students, Professionals, and Para-professionals.
This site owned and maintained by Abuse Counseling and Treatment, Inc., a not-for-profit agency funded in part by United Way, Florida Department of Health, Florida Council Against Sexual Violence, Florida Coalition Against Domestic Violence, Lee County, Office of the Attorney General and private donations from the community.
Domestic Violence Support
The purpose for this Yahoo! group is for helping those suffering or escaping domestic violence, with support, and advice. Also help those who have escaped to stay out. Not to mention a place where victims can vent past experiences.
End Verbal Abuse Support Group
This is an informational, anti-abuse peer group at Yahoo! for those overcoming the obstacles to leaving a verbal abuser in a healthy and safe manner or resolving their own abusive behavior (if applicable); protecting their children from abuse; recovering after leaving an abuser.
Spouse Abuse / Domestic Violence Support
The DV resource page on Health Guide: Support Groups. Created by WebMD.
Understanding Domestic Violence
A webpage from Peace Offerings.
Domestic Violence: Healing the Wounds
Recovery from domestic violence is a step-by-step process and a journey no one should take alone. An article from valueoptions.com.
A survivor's site with suggestions for how to plan for a financially secure and emotionally stable future and how to leave the relationship safely. There are also links to organizations that can help you with counseling, support and practical help with leaving an abusive relationship.
Understanding the Victims of Spousal Abuse
Article by Frank Ochberg MD, discusses why it happens, why they stay, the Stockholm Syndrome, and counseling.
Toolkit To End Violence Against Women
Each of 16 "chapters" focuses on a particular audience or environment; includes recommendations and advocacy for victims.
Recovery and Healing from Abuse and Trauma
Victims of abuse in all its forms - verbal, emotional, financial, physical, and sexual - are often disorientated. They require not only therapy to heal their emotional wounds, but also practical guidance and topical education. At first, the victim is, naturally, distrustful and even hostile.
The Conflicts of Therapy
Disclaimer: Statistically, the majority of abuse victims are female and most abusers are male. Still, we should bear in mind that there are male victims and female offenders as well. Ideally, after a period of combined tutoring, talk therapy, and (anti-anxiety or antidepressant) medications, the survivor will self-mobilize and emerge from
Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
Contrary to popular misconceptions, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and Acute Stress Disorder (or Reaction) are not typical responses to prolonged abuse. They are the outcomes of sudden exposure to severe or extreme stressors (stressful events).
How Victims are Affected by Abuse
Repeated abuse has long-lasting, pernicious and traumatic effects such as panic attacks, hypervigilance, sleep disturbances, flashbacks (intrusive memories), suicidal ideation, and psychosomatic symptoms. The victims experience shame, depression, anxiety, embarrassment, guilt, humiliation, abandonment, and an enhanced sense of vulnerability.
The Stalker as Antisocial Bully
Stalkers have narcissistic traits. Many of them suffer from personality disorders. The vindictive stalker is usually a psychopath (has Antisocial Personality Disorder). They all conform to the classic definition of a bully.
Statistics of Abuse and Stalking
Before we proceed to outline the psychological profile of the stalker, it is important to try and gauge the extent of the problem by quantifying its different manifestations. More plainly, studying the available statistics is both enlightening and useful.
Coping with Your Stalker
Abuse by proxy continues long after the relationship is officially over (at least as far as you are concerned). The majority of abusers get the message, however belatedly and reluctantly. Others (more vindictive and obsessed) continue to haunt their ex-spouses for years to come. These are the stalkers.
Interacting with Your Abuser
Having chosen your team of consultants and experts - and having hired their services - relegate any inevitable contact with your abusive ex – when and where possible – to professionals: your lawyer, or your accountant. Work with these qualified third parties to extricate yourself and your loved ones from the situartion.
Working with Professionals
Selecting the right professional is crucial. In the hands of an incompetent service provider, you may end up feeling abused all over again.
Befriending the System
In the process of mediation, marital therapy, or evaluation, counselors frequently propose various techniques to ameliorate the abuse or bring it under control. Woe betides the party that dares object or turn these "recommendations" down.
Home Sweet Home
A blog about crimes that occur within the home, HSH also features a huge listing of links to resources related to domestic abuse situations.